Today's blog in the #BeTheRippleBlogs series is an optimistic piece from Cherie White.
Cherie and I have never met in person and connected as a result of the #BeTheRipple movement. She is an anti-bullying activist, blogger and author. She has a vision of speaking publicly and helping people who are hurting to overcome their pain and achieve peace and happiness.
You can find Cherie on LinkedIn: Here.
Over to Cherie:
Finding Your Tribe: Some Find it Early in Life, Others Find it Late
You will find yours eventually. I did!
If it seems that everyone mistreats you and doesn’t like you, it doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you, and it doesn’t mean you don’t belong. You’re not defected, strange, or cursed. It only goes to show that you’re not with the right people. Understand that the people who bully you are all wrong for you and do not deserve to be in your life. What it means is that you haven’t yet found your tribe! And you deserve better!
If at any time you find yourself having to tiptoe around people or surrounded by people who only tolerate you, then you’re with the wrong people! The best thing you can do is to ditch them even if it means that you might be alone for a while. Trust me. You would much rather be by yourself than to cling to people who don’t care about you.
I understand the feeling of being lost, lonely, left out and rejected. And I realize that the sense of rejection can be so deep that some days, you feel like you can’t go on. But I want you to know that it won’t last forever.But rest assured that there will come a time when you will attract colleagues and other people into your life who want you in theirs, people who will accept you for who you are, who will see the good you bring to this world and who’ll do anything to see you happy. These people will uplift you and love you no matter what.
When you find yourself among people who support you on your path to your goals, you’ll know that you’ve found the right people!
If they don’t only tolerate your quirks and imperfections but celebrate them by laughing along with you, you’ve found your tribe!
If you can be weird or pitch a well-justified hissy-fit around them without being ridiculed, then they are your tribe!
You’ll know it when you’re with people who help you get through the stickiest situations by providing friendly advice, tips, and tricks because they totally get you!
With the right people in your life, there’s no judgement nor trying to help them understand where you’re coming from, the decisions you make, the way you feel, or the thoughts you think and voice aloud. They completely understand and never question you. They are supportive!
Today, people may bully you. They may degrade you, humiliate you and even physically assault you. You may be left out and scorned by everyone around you. And you may feel that no matter what you do, nothing will ever get better. But know that someday, somehow, you will find your tribe.
It may take a while, but there will come a day when you’ll have a circle of friends and colleagues who’ll respond with statements like, “Oh yeah! ‘Been there, done that!” and “Hey! Me too!” when they see your quirks and imperfections. And when you do, you’ll realize that the people who bullied you were only pushing you toward the people who were meant to be in your life. Your bullies were only a stepping-stone toward the people who were meant to be in your life. And when you finally find your tribe, they will be so worth the wait!
Thank you so much to Cherie for sharing this piece. As she discusses, sometimes it can take many years to find our tribe, but the great news is that inevitably we all do. The #BeTheRipple movement is a tribe of like-minded souls who are looking to make the working world and wider society kinder and more caring, if you are reading this blog piece, we welcome you and you may well have found your tribe in our community (otherwise known as our 'Kindness Collective').
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Thank you once again to Cherie for sharing this optimistic piece, a lovely reminder that we all have kindred spirits out there.
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